Reconciling: Why it Matters to Karen
Dear Friends and Members of BUMC,

As we approach the May 4th vote on BUMC becoming a Reconciling Church, I feel compelled to write this so that you can better understand why it is so important to me.

Why is becoming a reconciling church important to me?  Why did I become chairperson of the Reconciling Task Force when I knew the idea would be unpopular to some? Why am I compelled to stand up for this issue in our church and community? I have one answer to all of these questions: because I am a mom.  My single most significant and important responsibility in this world is to raise my children to have open hearts and open minds… to teach my children to approach this world and all who are in it with love rather than hate and with acceptance rather than judgment.  The single most important message that God brought to God’s children on this earth, through Jesus, is LOVE.  That is my answer.

How can I teach my children the true meaning of love and acceptance if I don’t stand up for those being discriminated against? How can I look into the faces of my friends and fellow moms, whose children are gay, if I sit by quietly while my faith family allows, through complacency, an attitude of prejudice toward those children? How can I serve God in a church that maintains a policy of discrimination and judgment in the Book of Discipline? The answer is simple for me; I cannot do any of these things and consider myself a good mom. Nor can I do any of these things and serve God with integrity.

I have told my children many times that what is right is not always easy. In fact, I would argue that, more often than not, doing what is right and just will present us with some of the most uncomfortable moments we will experience. I would also argue that doing what is right and just will also present us with some of the most rewarding moments we will experience.  Becoming a reconciling church is important to me because I am a mom, because it will teach my children – our children – what love means. Sometimes love isn’t easy, but it is always right.

Karen Schroedel